Cool 7 Reasons Dating Later In Life Makes You MAD And How To Deal
The idea of dating over 50 can come as a shock. You aresingleand in
midlife, which was probably not part of your life plan. But "things"
happen. Sometimes it's divorce, the passing of a spouse, or time
creeping up until you realize you nevermarriedand might not get the
chance.
One thing I have noticed as adatingcoach for women is how many single
gals in their 50's seemangryabout looking forlove. A variety of
reasons create this anger and some despair, as well. Most women never
thought they'd be single and dating over 50 which is certainly
understandable. Surprisingly, some women don't even realize they are
mad about this, but it sure gets in the way of finding love.
Let me share seven of the most common reasons for feeling miffed about
being over 50 and single AND what you can do about it:
1. I Wasted My Precious Youth on the Wrong Man.Maybe you left your
husband or he left you. Either way, your long-term marriage ended and
you look back fuming at all the time you foolishly invested. It feels
like you wasted the best years of your life on the wrong man. He
didn't appreciate you or treat you right. Who would have thought you'd
be single now?
What I tell my clients is that your years in a relationship made you
the woman you are today. So itwasn'twasted. You learned and there were
good times so it wasn't all a waste by any means. The good news is you
actually have a lot of single company as dating over 50 is the fastest
growing group online or anywhere. So chin up girlfriend, you do have
options!
2. I Can't Attract a Man When I'm Past My Prime.You feel too old to
find love again or you think youhadlove and now that part of your life
is over. The truth is people can find love at any age from 14 to 90.
Look at it this way, dating over 50 is somewhere in the middle age
range right? It's never too late for love and you are NOT too old.
There is so much you have to offer and your beauty shines through a
few laugh lines … so stop worrying. The right man will be lucky to
find you.
3. It's Easier for Men Who Are Dating Over 50.You think men have an
easier time dating in midlife? They go after younger women and online
that's what "all" men want. You're angry because men seem to skate by
you when it comes to love and they hold all the power.
Yet, trust me, when men are unreasonable about women they want to
date, they end up alone. Don't get upset about these men—just look for
men who are open to women your age and go meet them. There are plenty
of great guys who want to date a woman like you.
4. You No Longer Trust Men.If you left your relationship because your
man cheated, lied or both, that makes it difficult to trust men again.
I totally understand. Now here's another way to look at this
situation: while this might be hard to believe, ALL MEN ARENOTTHE
SAME. Each guy is a unique individual and shouldn't be lumped in with
a few bad apples. It's time to open your heart and mind to the
possibility that there is a good man out there for you. Otherwise, as
you repeat this sad and untrue mantra, you will keep yourself single.
5. You Resent Modern Dating.What happened to how dating once was and
that old-fashioned kind of love? You met a man, he showed interest,
you dated for a while, things got serious and you decided to marry. My
clients are usually surprised when I explain that dating
actuallyhasn'tchanged much. While the media, movies and maverick
dating experts suggest everything is different, this is absolutely NOT
true. Traditional dating still works, but it's up to you to stick to
that path, which is what I recommend to all my dating coaching
clients.
6. You Have No Idea Where to Start.It's been so many years since you
dated, you have no idea how to get started again. I get that. However,
nowadays there is SO much information about finding love and dating
over 50 you can certainly learn what works. Read books, take a class,
work with a dating coach, or visit websites like this one. Everything
you need to know is availableifyou just look for it. You can try
online dating, go to a MeetUp.com group, find singles dances or speed
dating, or get fixed up by people you know. Get busy!
7. Men Are Villians, So You Don't Have Any Interest.Okay, you've been
hurt and feel disgusted by the male gender. And now you've chosen not
to get involved again. That is totally your choice. No one says you
need a relationship. You can have a fabulous, rich life without a man.
However, if underneath it all, you wish you had a man to share your
life with, then my dating advice is not to hide behind your disdain
for men. Take time to heal (and get help if needed). Then, put some
effort into dating over 50 so you can find love again.
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