LADIES: What Guys REALLY Think Of Hooking Up On The First Date
Times have changed, ladies, and with it, thedatingrules. We're
embarking on a new kind of relationship and with it, a newer type of
woman. But as all the traditional rules change, should thes*x?
How soon is too soon — or is it okay to ask for it on the first night?
We asked the dudes in our lives to dish on when they think it's
appropriate to do the deed — and their answers, well, they'll surprise
you.
S*x Is A Yes, But The Type Of Woman Matters
"I'm going to get so much sh*t for this," says Ben, 27, "but I've
dated a lot of artists — and I've found that they're way more
free-spirited when it comes to the s*xual aspects of a relationship.
As a guy, there's something about being with someone who's so carefree
— and it's something you feel immediately, so yes, s*x on the first
night is okay … with the right woman. I don't feel likehaving s*xon
the first night will challenge, or compromise, what happens
afterward." He adds, "I'm not saying that it's only artists! Just
speaking from personal experience."
"I think s*x on the first night depends on whether or not you're going
to regret it," says Mark, 25, "I'm really attracted to the type of
girl at the bar that looks like she's a little aloof to the whole
scene. I'm not trying to be an ass, but I don't want to take home a
good girl on the first night. I think it would ruin my chances with
her."
"If I'm feeling you — and you're feeling me — we're both adults,
right? So getting it on should be our decision; and well, if we both
want it and are clear about our feelings, then I don't see the point
in putting it off until the second or third date," admits Josh, 33.
There's Something About A Woman Who Makes You Wait
The guys I spoke to that were okay with holding out for a few dates
really surprised me. Their answers were candid, honest and they proved
that though the times, they are a-changin' there's definitely still
something to be said about passion, patience and keeping it in your
pants until the clock strikes hot.
"The first time I went out with this girl I was really into, I had
high hopes that she'd invite me back upstairs after dinner was over.
When she didn't, I was pleasantly surprised, despite what I'd
originally banked on. I realized that I wanted to wait for it, too —
and the harder she was willing to make me work for it, the more
attracted to her I was," Ethan, 29, says.
"It's refreshing to meet someone who doesn't want to give it up all at
once. I don't think it means you're easy if you want to have s*x on
the first date or even after the first night, but I'm way more
attracted to a woman who knows how rare it is to have something to
look forward to. Everything we do is geared toward instant
gratification — and I don't mean that after having s*x I think of
girls in a way like 'what else do you have to offer?', because I
definitely don't — but it's really nice to have time to get to know
someone and put some room in between deciding to ask them on a second
date and deciding between missionary and doggie," says Tony, 31.
"When mygirlfriendand I first met, we left the bar making out and I
was sure we were going to end up at her apartment having s*x. Then,
she asked for my number and hailed a cab, leaving me in the dust. I
was caught so off guard — I kinda thought that was the kind of sh*t
you only saw in movies — but I couldn't stop thinking about her all
night. The next day, when she texted me, I was that much more
interested in her. It was unexpected but totally awesome to have to
wait on someone else for once," Madison, 26, says.
You Can't Date The Girl You Take Home
"If you want to have s*x the first night we meet, I'm down," says
Travis, 23, "but just don't expect me to call you the next day — or
any day after."
"I think a lot of guys would stray from saying this because it would
make them sound soft or too sensitive, but we don't really want the
girl who sleeps with us on the first night. Okay, fine, some of us
really do, but the majority of us are just saying that we do. We
don't. We want the waiting period, the getting-to-know-you period. We
want to take you to overpriced dinners and then complain about it
behind your back. We want you to keep denying us, because it's s*xy as
f*ck, until you're ready. At least," Sam, 29, said, "I do."
"You know that expression 'You can't turn a hoe into a housewife'?,"
asks Quinn, 26. "I'm not saying that you should by any means call a
woman a hoe, but I think that the point of the saying is pretty true.
If I sleep with you on the first night, that's awesome, but I'm never
really going to see you as much more than that. You'll be the girl
that gave it up the first time we met."
So, ladies, I'm as surprised as you are, but the fellas have spoken:
Waiting is the new s*x.
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